We journalists like studies. They help us put stories and topics in context. So a study released in 2018 exploring the association between importance of religion and suicide ideation is obviously going to interest me. If you’ve followed my writing for any length of time, or you’re a friend of mine, you know that religion… Continue reading We Need to Rethink How We Talk about LGBTQ
My church-related cynicism took a fresh hit of reality this weekend, one that was well-needed. At a church event, the people leading it shared their testimonies. They were (separately) dealing with similar issues. They had heard of Jesus-related things when they were young, but they shoved it aside. Instead, they pursued drugs and alcohol, sex… Continue reading The Same Old, Same Old Salvation Story, And How My Cynicism Got Punched in the Gut.
Perhaps the most important thing I've ever learned about following Christ is that you can't base your relationship with Jesus on emotions. Just because it "feels like" it's not going right doesn't mean that it's not. And vice versa. But after going to church and being around the Christian culture for 23-plus years now, I'm… Continue reading (For)Getting All the Feels: Rethinking the Way We Follow Jesus
Let me just be honest here: I can spend way too much time in my mind and on this blog focusing on the things the Church is missing out on or doing wrong. I think there's a place for thinking and talking about those things. If we're too scared to talk about how we screw… Continue reading My 10 Favorite ‘Christian Organizations’ and Why I Love the Crap Out of Them
No, you can't always get what you want You can't always get what you want You can't always get what you want But if you try sometime you find You get what you need - The Rolling Stones The Stones had their finger on something. I wish the Church would grasp it sometimes. Whether it's… Continue reading We Must Learn to Be Content in Any and Every Situation, Even If Culture Goes Awry
We live in a culture of vehement disagreement. Just take a look at your News Feed. Every day, I see (and am sometimes involved in) conversations on someone's Facebook post that revolves around a vehement disagreement on some political or societal issue. Sometimes that disagreement can be over something trivial and the disagreement can be… Continue reading As Far As It Depends on You, Just Get Along With People on Social Media
A Reddit feed on Christianity had a post back in December 2012 that read like this: Hi there, I recently Felt i have lost touch with my christian faith. I prayed today that God would hear my cry and forgive me of my wrong and help me to live as christ would in this destructive world,… Continue reading Perfect Love Casts Out Fear. But The Church Hasn’t Been a Place Where That Happens.
I taught a Sunday School class for men this summer. Older men, not just young guys like me. One Sunday, I decided to go off-script. I asked the question: "What comes to mind when you think about Jesus and sex?" "Nothing," one person said. "He didn't have it," another said. "OK," I said. "What about… Continue reading Why Are We So Scared to Be Blunt About Sex?
Perhaps one of my favorite movie romances is between Will Hunting and Skylar in the 1999 film Good Will Hunting. I love the movie, but the romance is quite interesting. Will hails from the dirty streets of Boston, while Skylar is an English lass who has come to America to get an education at Harvard.… Continue reading Refocused Romance, Pt. 3: It’s About Commitment, Not Feeling.
Author’s Note: This is the first part in a 5-part series called “Refocused Romance,” in which I explore different aspects of dating that often get little attention, particularly in the high school context. By this, I hope to simply bring up thoughts and questions by which we as a body of Christ can grow in… Continue reading Refocused Romance, Pt. 2: High standards, not impossible ones